Sex and Emotional Closeness.

Many couples therapists believe that if they tackle emotional issues like communication, trust, and division of household tasks, then a better sex life will follow. However, in most cases, this assumption is false, particularly for women whose libido tends to decrease within monogamy. The fallacy that emotional closeness universally increases sex drive in women creates a vicious cycle whereby the woman assumes that her partner isn't sensitive enough or that they need even MORE couples counseling before she will somehow magically get into the mood for sex. Unfortunately, sex never gets directly addressed and worked on concretely.